Corporal / Corporeal
Blog for ESL by Stephen Lau
Learning a language is not easy, let alone mastering it, especially a second language. This blog provides information and tools not only to learn but also to master the English language.
Thursday, April 18, 2024
Learning Vocabulary
Corporal / Corporeal
Wednesday, April 17, 2024
Learn Some Colloquial Expressions
Tuesday, April 16, 2024
Common English Expressions
Bang-up: excellent.
Lame duck: someone who needs help but undeserved.
Monday, April 15, 2024
Parental Anger
Conflicts and misinterpretations often lead to anger with parents, resulting in the development of future relationships with a lack of love and trust. Conflicts with biological parents, stepparents, foster and adoptive parents may vary in intensity, and even change drastically due to the separation and divorce of parents. In addition, bad parental relationships may worsen due to the following:
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The birth of a new baby
demanding more parental attention.
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Financial problems, such
as unemployment.
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Development of anxiety
and depression in both parents and children.
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Experiences of abuse and
bullying at home, at school or elsewhere.
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Drug and alcohol use.
Children, while growing up into preteens and teenagers, often become more
independent and more responsible, with their own perspectives and preferences
in every aspect of their lives. Their mental and emotional changes are the
foundations of their disagreements with their parents, including their time
management, their doings, and non-doings, as well as their obedience and
disobedience to their parents’ demands.
Irrational anger
On November 21, 2022, a 10-year-old boy shot and killed his mother
by mistake. He allegedly claimed he took the
gun from his mother’s bedroom down to the basement, where his mother was doing
her laundry. The boy initially claimed that he was twirling the gun around his
fingers when it went off and “accidentally” killed his mother.
But, according to The Milwaukee Journal Sentinel, the boy later confessed that he
carried out the heinous act out of his anger after his mother refused to
buy him a VR headset. Members of his family further revealed the 10-year-old
boy’s many previous episodes of erratic anger and rage issues, such as setting
fire at home and causing explosion when his demands were rejected by his
mother.
Even while being interrogated by the FBI,
the boy surprisingly asked if the VR headset that he ordered from Amazon the
day after killing his mother had arrived or not.
The Bottom Line
So, as a parent, you need to improve your
relationships with your children by doing the following:
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Spending more quality
time with more one-on-one interactions with your children as they grow up.
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Finding the right time
to address any issue, instead of responding to it right away.
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Listening to complaints
without any interruption.
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Acknowledging their
needs and wants, and explaining to them the differences between needs and
wants.
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Connecting or
reconnecting them with warmth, such as hugging.
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Being willing and open
to any compromise.
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Teaching them about
love, compassion, forgiveness, and empathy.
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Helping them set their
own life goals, and not what you want them to do.
Angry No More: A new book on how to control and eradicate your anger.
Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau
Sunday, April 14, 2024
What Is Good Writing?
Stephen Lau
Saturday, April 13, 2024
American Idioms for ESL Learners
Back to back: following immediately.
Come to think of it: I just remembered.
Have one's head in the clouds: not knowing what is happening.
Bark up the wrong tree: ask or choose the wrong person.
Get a load off one's mind: say what one is thinking.
Bury one's head in the sand: ignore the obvious danger.
Johnny-come-lately: a late comer.
Kiss and make up: forgive and be friends again.
By the same token: in the same way.
Friday, April 12, 2024
Understanding What Freedom Is
Your freedom is about your right, your choice, and your obedience.
But your right
does not necessarily become your choice, and your choice may also involve
your obedience to act accordingly. Remember, you are living your
life, and nobody can live it for you. So, what is someone’s right does not
have to be your choice, and your choice may be subjective to your
obedience to others. Freedom is complicated and paradoxical, but it does play a
pivotal role in every aspect of your daily life and living.
The bottom line: To
have a better understanding of what is “true freedom”, you need wisdom to open
your mind.
WISDOM
Opening your thinking mind is your wisdom, which is not the same as your knowledge. Knowledge refers to the information you have acquired, while opening your mind means using the information collected to apply to your everyday life and living. So, an individual can be knowledgeable but without being wise.
Then, what is wisdom?
And where does it come from?
Wisdom is all about opening
your thinking mind to find out how it perceives and processes not
only all your life experiences but also all the information you have been
exposed to through your individual five senses. Your perceptions and processes
create the so-called “realities” in your own mind, and they subsequently affect
how your mind thinks, giving you your beliefs, your attitudes, and even your
self-delusions.
The reality is that you
have both a conscious mind and a subconscious mind. All your past
information is stored in your subconscious mind, which controls and dominates
your conscious mind. In other words,
your wisdom is your mental capability to separate the truths from the
half-truths, as well as to discern and discover the self-delusions and the
self-illusions stored in your subconscious mind. Without that mental
capability, you will not fully understand your “freedom”, as well as your
choice and obedience to do this and not to do that.
“The reason why man may become the
master of his own destiny is because he has the power to influence his own
subconscious mind.” Napoleon Hill
So, your wisdom is all about controlling your subconscious mind.
Thinking is also a process of self-intuition through asking relevant questions to create self-awareness and self-introspection. It is the natural habit of your thinking mind to solve problems by asking specific questions. Solving problems with specific questions is self-empowering your thinking mind to attain wisdom because it creates your intent to learn, to discover, and then to change for the better.
Knowing the importance
of asking questions and the continuation of asking more relevant questions is
the way to attaining true human wisdom.
For example, to develop
your empty mindset, do your reverse thinking—which is thinking backward
by asking questions to find out how and why you might have
your current thoughts of thinking with your attitudes and prejudices, as well
as with your beliefs and emotions. Your reverse thinking may then show you that
your so-called “new realities” are, in fact, distorted and even unreal.
FREEDOM with BONDAGE shows you how you can have "freedom" and not "bondage" in your everyday choices and decisions.
Stephen Lau
Copyright© by Stephen Lau